Thursday, 3/28/13 Crystal met me at the gym for our workout. It was a Plyometric workout. When my Coach, Jaime, gave me my first Plyo workout I had no idea what it was. I thought it was just another Cardio workout. I actually looked it up on google. "Plyometrics, also known as jump training or plyos, are exercises based around having muscle exert maximum force in as short a time as possible, with the goal of increasing both speed and power. This training focuses on learning to move from a muscle extension to a contraction in a rapid or explosive way, for example with specialized repeated jumping." When I get these workouts from Jaime, I look at the Plyo workouts and always think, oh geez, that's going to be easy, or that looks kind of weird, but they always end up kicking my butt! Thanks Jaime!
I got to meet my best friend, Jani, for lunch today. I think she was worried about how I was doing, worried about how my sister was doing, and a bit curious to see how I looked without my hair. It was so good for me to spend some time with her. She got me to talk about how I felt about cutting my hair off, and really, for the first time, why I did it.
Of course, the reason I did it was to make it easier for Mary to do hers. I did NOT want her to have to shave or lose her hair without me doing it too. Honestly, it was not as hard for me to do it as it was for her. I know mine will grow back quickly. Hers won't. It was, and is still, sometimes difficult when I walk by a mirror and see myself. It still doesn't process that it is me. But I am getting used to it. Just like every woman does when they get a new haircut or color. I was/am so paranoid that people are just going to assume that I am the one that is sick with cancer. After all, why in the world would a woman CHOOSE to shave her hair off??? Just because. Maybe because she wants to be wild and crazy. Maybe because she's a rocker chick. Maybe a biker chick. Maybe she is sick and going through cancer or some other kind of treatment that forced her to lose her hair. Or maybe, she did do it in support of someone she loves. Whatever the reason, it really isn't that big of a deal I've decided. We are who we are no matter what we look like on the outside. Even without our "crown of glory". (and I had a big crown!) It makes me so angry that, as a woman, we feel we have to hide our heads with scarves or hats if we don't have any hair. Yes, it does take some getting used to. Yes, it does make you feel a bit vulnerable. (And, yes it is a bit colder.) But, we are still the same person. So, when you do see a woman who is wearing a scarf, who has a shaved head or who has lost her hair, it's okay to look. Just give her a smile too. I was thinking everyone was staring at first, but hello....I guess you don't see a woman every day with a shaved head. I just don't want people feeling sorry for me or thinking I've done this "grand gesture". I don't feel that way about it. I just did it. I chose to do this just to make it easier for Mary to do it. My sister was the one who didn't have a choice, but I don't think she would want anyone to feel sorry for her either. It is a part of the process now that she know she has to go through that is temporary, and the process will make her well.
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